This past spring, our family moved across the state for my
husband's new job. We were excited to be
near a big city again, and all the fun that would bring us, but were sad to
leave 'home'. We have moved four times
in the nine years we have been married, but that place was the one that has
felt the most like home. I know that is
because that was where we grew our family.
I remember where I was sitting in our home when we got the call we were
matched the first time, the room that we held each other and cried because the
match fell through. There was a door in
that house that was closed for years, because it was our nursery, and sat
empty. I know the street I was driving
on when I got the call about being matched with Isaac's birthfamily, how I
rushed to my husband's office because I was close, so I could tell him. The doors that we walked through when we got
back home with Isaac, showing him his home, his room, that was no longer
empty. Where we were surrounded by friends
that cried with us through the pain and loss, and were joyous with us in the
happy moments that seem to equally come with adoption. We made several close friends there, that
became our family, with Isaac calling them his Aunts and Uncles. How would we leave this place. The place where we had grown our family, with
our boys, and the extended friends?
The day we closed on our house was a dreary,
rainy day. Perfect for the mood where we
would say goodbye to that house, the house that we built our family in. We took one last picture of us on the front
porch with the two boys, put the keys on the counter, and drove away, our
vehicles stuffed to the gills with everything that we 'lived' with after the
movers had packed us up.
As we
moved, and began to get settled in our new home, we started venturing around
the neighborhood. I was up to my
eyeballs in boxes and packing paper, but I tried to leave the chaos at least
once a day to take a walk around the neighborhood. We met the family behind us, who has a
daughter that just graduated from high school.
She is adopted, and has a very open adoption with her birth father and
siblings. It was nice to be able to have
a common topic to share across the yards.
As the summer moved on, an new family moved in right next to us. We introduced ourselves, and through the
first conversation, discovered that their little seven year old was
adopted.
I would
have never known how I connected I would be to our neighbors this quickly, the
bond we would all share in common. Though none of our adoption stories are similar,
we do share one thing in common, the amazing process that has brought us our
children. Though this place still isn't 'home' like our last city was, it's
getting there, one friendly chat at a time.